Isn’t it so cool and amusing when you meet someone who seems just like you? You both think the same way, feel the same, and share a lot of the same opinions. You guys could even have the same mannerisms, behaviors, and instincts. It feels like you found your long lost twin. You also get a sense of feeling understood. Who doesn’t like feeling relatable or meeting someone who can relate to them? We feel a peaceful aligning kind of connection with people who seem just like that. On the other hand, we also come across people who are completely different than us. You behave totally different, you have opposite instincts, and what makes sense to them, doesn’t make sense to you.

Personalities are so interesting in that way. It’s what makes us similar to one another, yet very unique the same time. How can that be? To be the same, but different, are two contradicting concepts. Basically, personalities can be grouped by different types. These types more general which makes us feel more relatable to many people.

When you think of personalities, think OCEAN. It’s an acronym for general personality types. When we identify with one of these letters, we can relate to other people sharing the same letter. “O” stands for “open to experience,” versus those who are more closed. “C” stands for “conscientiousness,” versus a lackadaisical approach to life. “E” stands for “extraversion,” in contrast to more introverted people. “A” stands for “agreeable individuals,” in contrast to those decidedly not agreeable. “N” stands for “neurotic individuals,” in contrast to those who are more stable.

These personalities do influence our well being in life. For example, more openness and conscientiousness are good predictors of success. The open people usually achieve that success with audaciousness and being more odd. The conscientious people achieve it by sticking to deadlines, persevering, and having passion. Extroversion and agreeableness are also seen to lead to success in working well with others.

Contrasting personalities can be so different from each other, seeming like they’re from two separate planets. It’s not an introvert’s nature to say something bluntly. They’d rather take the long descriptive way alluding to their point. Extroverts are more comfortable saying exactly how they feel, getting straight to the point. Extroverts love to socialize and enjoy constant stimulation. Introverts get overwhelmed by too much stimulation. In fact, they gather themselves best with less stimulation.

While introverts can relate and understand other introverts, they’re still not exactly the same. There’s other combination of traits that make us different. And often times, an introvert will need to adopt extrovert qualities depending on the situation. For example, an introverted professor, who loves teaching how students the latest information, needs to pull extroverted qualities to give a lecture in front of a crowd.

So while we can relate to many people and feel like one of the rest, we’re each unique in our own ways.That’s what makes us special. We share personality traits, but we adopt a combination of others based on our unique personal experiences. This also helps us to understand and relate to different personality types because we’re a little of everything in different ways.

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