The fact that we are all so unique with such complex combinations of personalities make us incredibly fascinating. We are all pieced together by an idiosyncratic fusion of strengths and weaknesses. But are they really weaknesses? Or are they just personality traits that can make life more challenging depending on the situation? Because sometimes, traits can be positive in one way and more challenging in others.


Basic human qualities are the way in which we relate to ourselves, others, and the world around us. And maybe some of our traits become exaggerated and/or distorted, making things challenging for ourselves and others around us. These challenges can lead to other problems like addiction, dependency, or chronic pain, as well as taking affecting our mental and emotional wellbeing. We could exert degrees of insecurities, defensiveness, anger, self centeredness, impatience, etc. when our personality challenges are exaggerated.


Of course, this puts us in an unhappy state emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. It can also be problematic and difficult for others to handle which turn around back on us. When they react to our personality challenges in a negative way, the situation only becomes worse for everyone.


So what do we do? How do we make sure our personality challenges don’t bother others as well as ourselves?


The solution is a rather spiritual principle of using an antidote. When we feel judgement rising within us, then switch your mindset to have more compassion for yourself and others. If you’re feeling resentment towards someone, find it in yourself to forgive them. Not just forget about what happened and move on, but let go of the emotional attachment to it. “As John Friel, PhD has described it, forgiveness is the willingness to give up all hope for a better past.” If you’re feeling prone to anger, practice acceptance. “Anger is a reaction to an upsetting occurrence or perceived mistreatment in the present. Acceptance doesn’t mean we like the situation. It means we have consciously chosen to not continue to expend time and energy fighting against it.”


This is how we reframe situations to consciously navigate our personality traits. To control and live with them at their best and worst. If you, or a someone you know, is struggling with personality challenges and maintaining a healthy emotional and mental well-being, or struggle with handling social situations, please reach out and contact a medical professional at Crownview Medical Group for some advice.